I guess I didn’t really think about what my responsibilities to my guests would be for a summer wedding. I had the common sense to plan on seating for the ceremony and bottled water under the seats. But having a tent in case of sun? An air conditioner designed for tents? Holding a morning or evening ceremony? I hadn’t thought about that. And I didn’t like these options either.
A tent would ruin the feeling I was going for, the whole point of having a summer outdoor wedding. The feel of the sun smiling down on us and the expansive feeling that the blue skies would provide, would all be covered up and wreck our photos. A morning ceremony? Well, we’re not morning people. Plus Adam wants a nice plated dinner for our reception (not sure a multi-course lunch is really ideal). And an evening reception would lend itself more to expectations of dancing, which we don’t want. Plus it would mean our pictures aren’t golden summer afternoon shots.
Maybe an outdoor summer wedding isn’t a good idea.
But if I don’t have a summer wedding, I don’t get a week to spend with his family here, to return the hospitality that they paid me. I don’t get a few weeks between work and wedding to unwind and prepare. I don’t get a few weeks between work and wedding to get Adam moved in and acclimated to living here. If we don’t have an outdoor summer wedding, there goes all my ideas for lawn games as entertainment and getting our families and friends interacting. And of course as a teacher, I don’t want this to be me. And a small point, but I’d like to start out a new school year with a new name so as not to confuse my students.
And thinking ahead to the future, I want an anniversary in the summer. Ideally on the same day he proposed (August 15) but more so, I associate summer time with “our” season. It’s when we met in person, and my happiest memories with Adam are in the summer. I equate summer with romance now. I really want a summer wedding. Readers, do you have any other suggestions for me on the best way to make this work?