I found a wedding vow site here that had a good selection of ring ceremony wording. I looked mainly in the secular/non denomination vows section. I found myself drawn to the following sentiments:
o The ring is a reminder of our wedding/vows
o It’s a token of our love (duh)
o It’s forever
o It’s a sign of commitment
o The ring has no end, like our love
o Think of me as you wear it
o Since you’ll always wear it, part of me will always be with you
I didn’t like:
o One drew a comparison between precious love and precious metal. That seemed a little gosh to me. It’s true, but it seems tacky to bring up the money aspect in the vows!
o The ring is symmetrical, symbolizing perfect love. I don’t think perfection is a healthy goal to chase. This is coming from a former perfectionist (who’s learned her lesson).
One of the simplest but very poignant vows was: “With this ring, I wed you, and pledge you my love, now and forever.” Unlike the marriage vows, which I wanted to be personal, I kind of liked how to the point and basic this ring ceremony wording is. It’s a good contrast. A nice way of saying, “Hey, it’s a wedding ring. It’s a symbol of our marriage, period.” That’s sort of all you need, really!
But in the end, my favorite was this:
“(Name), I give you this ring as a symbol of my love. As it encircles your finger, may it remind you always that you are surrounded by my enduring love.”
Although I think I’d like to change it slightly to sound more traditional:
(Name), with this ring, I thee wed. As it encircles your finger, may it remind you always that you are surrounded by my enduring love.
There is a “response” to this line, but that seems a little unnecessary to me. I just like this ring ceremony wording because it’s pretty basic: the ring is a symbol of our love. And because I love tradition, I did want us to say the classic, “with this ring i thee wed” vows.” But I love the bit that says every time I look at it, I should remember that Adam loves me. I do that with my engagement ring all the time. When I need a little lift, I just gaze at it. When it catches my eye at a random moment, it makes me smile inside. Some people think the ring exchange is outdated, but for that reason, I think they’re awesome.