That made me sad. Posters said things like it makes the wedding into a big “gift grab.” And “Shame on you for wanting a BWW (big white wedding) when a wedding isn’t about the show, it’s about getting married.” Not to me directly. I kept my mouth shut on there as they ripped into some other poor girl. But it bothered me just as much.
If we end up forced to marry in, say, March, I don’t want Adam’s family to have to take a transatlantic flight for a single wedding weekend (or be stuck entertaining themselves while I work if they come for longer) on their first ever trip here to the states. As a school teacher I can’t just take a week vacation when I want.
And I don’t want a big wedding. I plan on having fewer than 25 guests. I don’t care about gifts. I own my own home and I have everything I need; people can keep their toasters.
What I DO want is to have good food, a showy dress, pretty flowers, nice music, and photos to commemorate one of the most important days in our lives. Something significant for such a significant part of our relationship. However, apparently, this is one of the tackiest things you can do for a wedding.
I think of myself as a traditional girl. I want my wedding to be traditional. White dress, classical music, white cake. So this makes me sad. I really hope I don’t end up having to choose between a wedding that works for me and my family, and following proper wedding etiquette. Add one to the list of wedding stressors.
Photo Courtesy of:
J El Caganer