Sunday, March 28, 2010
Wedding Registry: Pottery Barn, Peabody Massachusetts
Every once in a while I start to feel a little blue about the whole long distance relationship thing. You’d think I’d be used to it. You’d think that being engaged would make me feel like being apart is a temporary setback. And of course it has helped! But I guess it’s only normal to miss the one you love. So being smack dab in the middle of visits (saw Adam at Christmas, visiting him in July, and it’s currently the end of March) I’ve found myself in a bit of a funk. Hence the blog-writing hiatus. Planning my wedding was feeling a little like I was torturing myself instead of cheering me up.
Well, today I had myself a little “bridal day.” Pottery Barn was having a little bridal expo. I actually got to start my first registry, which was kind of exciting. I wouldn’t have if it wasn’t for the show, since the wedding is so far away. In fact, I have been sort of anti-registry for a while. I think it’s a little rude to tell people what you want them to get you unless they ask. But people DO ask. I like to ask people what they’d like. I want to be sure the gift I give is one that the person will actually enjoy, so I’m sure there are others like me. I think I might not include the registry information in with the invitation though; I’ll only tell people who ask.
It was kind of fun going around with the scanner. I didn’t select a ton of things because, well, I’m a professional supporting myself so I own everything I need. And if I see something I’m lacking, I tend to buy it, not wait a year and a half for someone to get it for me. However, Adam will be moving country, and might not have everything that he wants. So I looked around for things that I know he’s used to at home, and that he missed when he was here visiting. That made me feel much less greedy.
Well, the salesperson who was helping me (who by the way, was awfully cold and detached, getting Adam’s name wrong, the wedding date wrong, the venue wrong, my hometown wrong, and my password wrong) was not pleased with my Spartan list. She told me that I didn’t have enough things on it. I know it’s her job to sell stuff, but you don’t have to be rude about it. She even changed my quantities on a few items to double (which I went in and changed back online once I was home). So I smiled sweetly and told her that of course I’d be back another day with my fiancé to pick out more things! (If and when I feel like it). After all, he needs to have some say too. She bought that line, and said yes, come back often. Some seasonal items get discontinued so I need to update that list frequently. Somehow I doubt Adam’s white towels and wine glasses are going to be taken off the shelves for summertime though.
The rest of the bridal expo was equally as rinky-dink. There was a bridal dress shop (got mine already) a tuxedo shop (also check) and a photographer who I’ve seen all over (with photos that look totally amateur). I didn’t even get a piece of cake because I’d waited too long, and was stuck with a slice of banana bread. So not much new information today besides the registry. The only thing that was new and different was a salon station where I got a free facial and “makeover.” The concept was very cool, and it was pretty fun, although I looked worse than the 2 minute job I’d spent on myself this morning once they were done with me. I told them at the start that if I didn’t like their work I’d wear my sunglasses out. They laughed, and got started. Even though I told them I have oily skin, she used an oil based cleanser on me, so I looked all slick and shiny after. And the makeup looked pretty much like what I do on my own, just again, that shine was coming through so I looked silly. I wore my sunglasses out. I didn’t really care how I looked today though, and now I’ve learned about one salon that I will DEFINITELY not use for my wedding.
When I told Adam about the registry, he seemed a little bit wary at first, (he wasn’t familiar with the concept) but when he saw the few things I picked out and saw they were mostly for him, he warmed up, haha. We even talked for a little while about what he’ll want for a desk. It was great how this led to a nice chat about our future together, even if it was just furniture related, hehe.
So it does stink that I have to spend my engagement apart from Adam, and I do sometimes feel a little cheated that what I always thought was the most romantic phase in a relationship is lonelier than I thought, it’s days like today that help me remember that it’s not all bad! I won’t be able to enjoy these little wedding planning perks after I’m married. Though cuddling up with Adam on the couch will beat a greasy facial at the mall any day.