Friday, May 29, 2009

Meeting Mr. Right

This is the story of my engagement. I was never one of those girls who daydreamed about planning her wedding. I am artistic, and particular about design and decorating, and I have some sense of personal style. But I always felt like planning a wedding before you’ve found Mr. Right is just plain tempting fate.

Well, I found Mr. Right, so the time to daydream is now!

But before I get into the engagement, and all the details of planning a wedding in Massachusetts, let me tell you a little about Adam and me.

Back when I was living out in Western Massachusetts, I frequented MSN spaces. Through commenting on various blogs I happened upon a random forum. A year or so later I distinctly remember Adam sending me a personal message. It was VERY out of the blue, just a little “hello.” And I wrote him off, pretty much, as some flirt. But I figured I might as well say hi back, I guess. Then he wanted to chat on messenger. Again I thought, “Who does he think he is?” I told him I didn’t have it, figuring he’d move on, take the hint that I’m not interested. Well, he immediately gave me a link to download it. And then he spent over an hour, through the PM system, helping me install it and set it up and customize it.

That seemed awfully nice and helpful to do for someone you just met.

Well, Adam later told me that he had been reading my posts on the forum for a while, and I didn’t even realize it, but I’d commented on his blog prior to that. So at the same time I was impressed by how helpful he was to a random stranger, he was encouraged that I was friendly and didn’t shoot him down thinking he was some random flirt and asking, “Who do you think you are?”

The next evening, just for fun, I logged in at the exact same time, to see if he was there. And he was. Every day that week. And the week turned into a month. An unspoken standing “date” became part of our routine. This was back in May of 2006. And by the end of August, he told me for the first time that he loves me. A magical moment that made me feel thrilled, and all those other wonderfully indescribable feelings that go with being committed to each other.

Oh, and did I mention he lives 3,000 miles away?

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  1. Oh wow, 3,000 miles? That's rough. Congrats on your engagement, you've obviously made it work.

  2. Wow! 3,000 miles! I'm so happy that you were able to find him, despite the distance! D and I met online as well, so I'm all about those "standing dates." :)


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